Paul and I celebrate two years of marriage today. Yay! On one hand I can’t believe we’ve been married for two years and on the other hand, whoa! I feel like I have SO much to learn still. Most of all, I’ve learned that I’m a SLOW learner. You can be taught your whole life how to have a happy marriage, but you can’t know HOW to apply it until you’re in it and learn things that work for you and your partner. For example, not going grocery shopping together is one of our keys to happiness. Check.
I’ve had a few people mention how they can’t seem to find my wedding pictures on this blog and looking back, it’s because I didn’t post too many here. They were originally published on 100 Layer Cake
so I thought I’d post a bunch load today, including some never before footage (so reality show-ish!). Careful, it’s gonna be a doozy.
I remember the day feeling surreal. A lot of the steps of the day kind of seemed like robotic motions because you’ve seen weddings on tv, movies, with friends, etc and then all of a sudden you’re the star of the show. Even if you’re sick (I had a cold and Paul’s back had gone out) you’re running on pure adrenaline and you keep that smile plastered on your face. I was determined not to be frantic or nervous or bridezilla and I don’t think I was, but maybe you should ask someone else for the truth.
But, let’s talk about regrets now. One thing I regret about the day was that I didn’t have our family and friends speak at our reception. I would have LOVED to have heard the speech I’m almost positive my dad prepared. If you know my dad, you know he doesn’t mind a mic (to put it mildly).
The biggest thing I’ve learned about marriage so far is that it’s not something you can do half-heartedly. If you want a marriage to work, you gotta WORK at it. It’s a consistent investment of time and thought. You can’t do something thoughtful one day and think you’re good for while. It’s an every day thing. It’s an “I love you so much I want to make your day good” thing. Oh my, I’ve got a long way to go. I’ve learned that I’m not perfect. Ha! I must have thought I was when I was single. Well, needless to say, marriage is humbling, terrific, relentless, fulfilling and so many other opposites. Thankfully, I’ve married a very patient man who I’ve grown to love more and more each day.
What’s your key to a happy marriage? I’d LOVE to know!
Click below to read more about the wedding reception.