Paul and I celebrate two years of marriage today. Yay! On one hand I can’t believe we’ve been married for two years and on the other hand, whoa! I feel like I have SO much to learn still. Most of all, I’ve learned that I’m a SLOW learner. You can be taught your whole life how to have a happy marriage, but you can’t know HOW to apply it until you’re in it and learn things that work for you and your partner. For example, not going grocery shopping together is one of our keys to happiness. Check.
I’ve had a few people mention how they can’t seem to find my wedding pictures on this blog and looking back, it’s because I didn’t post too many here. They were originally published on 100 Layer Cake so I thought I’d post a bunch load today, including some never before footage (so reality show-ish!). Careful, it’s gonna be a doozy.
I remember the day feeling surreal. A lot of the steps of the day kind of seemed like robotic motions because you’ve seen weddings on tv, movies, with friends, etc and then all of a sudden you’re the star of the show. Even if you’re sick (I had a cold and Paul’s back had gone out) you’re running on pure adrenaline and you keep that smile plastered on your face. I was determined not to be frantic or nervous or bridezilla and I don’t think I was, but maybe you should ask someone else for the truth.
But, let’s talk about regrets now. One thing I regret about the day was that I didn’t have our family and friends speak at our reception. I would have LOVED to have heard the speech I’m almost positive my dad prepared. If you know my dad, you know he doesn’t mind a mic (to put it mildly).
The biggest thing I’ve learned about marriage so far is that it’s not something you can do half-heartedly. If you want a marriage to work, you gotta WORK at it. It’s a consistent investment of time and thought. You can’t do something thoughtful one day and think you’re good for while. It’s an every day thing. It’s an “I love you so much I want to make your day good” thing. Oh my, I’ve got a long way to go. I’ve learned that I’m not perfect. Ha! I must have thought I was when I was single. Well, needless to say, marriage is humbling, terrific, relentless, fulfilling and so many other opposites. Thankfully, I’ve married a very patient man who I’ve grown to love more and more each day.
What’s your key to a happy marriage? I’d LOVE to know!
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As we celebrate Labor Day here in the States and mark the unofficial end to summer here and abroad, Lars’ current playlist starts out sweet like summer and turns a little grittier as Lars transitions his way into fall. Play September’s playlist here. And check out previous months here.
“You have three minutes” he told me. That’s how long Paul gave me to take his photo in front of this not-so-Danish garden home (aka kolonihave). He is so good about finding spots around town he’ll know I’ll gush over and this was one of them. Of course, he should know by now that that also means he has to be my subject. Or at least he knows it now. I love it when someone goes outside the ordinary and even provides a little resting bench outside for snoopers like us.
We’re currently staying at our friend’s place for the week located right by the Marble Church (Marmorkirken) and we’re loving it! Remember what it’s like to step right outside and have your choice of restaurants, grocery stores, and cute shops? Oh man, I miss this proximity! There’s the BEST shop across the street, Fil de Fer, whose owner Lars Kristensen, has packed with the most exquisite home furnishings from France. I want it all (like these chairs above shot in front of the store front). The edible flowers, above, were picked from the garden outside our real home that we placed on our Sunday meal.
“Enough with the post-its, girl!” I know, I know, I hear ya loud and clear. But, when a girl’s gotta post-it, a girl’s gotta post it! The post-it projects (here and here) were actually all for this. I was asked to create an “inspiration wall” for a young adult conference here in Denmark and I thought it’d be groovy to finally try out the post-its idea. The theme of the week was “agents for good” and this wall was to serve as a reminder or instigator to do good. They were supposed to write the good things they had done that week on each post it. In all honesty, I thought the project would be a cinch because all you have to do is buy post its and then stick them to a wall. Not quite.
First off, the post-its I could find didn’t really have the longevity I was going for. They curled and fell off. Second, they come in not my favorite color palette.
Solution? Buy paper and cut them down to size. Thankfully, I had a team to help AND a paper cutter. Glee! Though it was more time consuming.
Materials: paper in your choice of colors (I went for rainbow in various lights and darks), scissors or paper cutter, glue gun or glue stick, white butcher paper, duct tape, one real post it to use as a template
Step 1: Cut the paper down to size. I used a real post-it to use as a template and then cut the rest to that size. To achieve this look, use various shades of the same colors. In total I bought about 30 shades of paper.
Step 2: We used white butcher paper to cover the areas we intended to post-it and secured it with duct tape.
Step 3: Start at the bottom of the paper and then layer on top. I started with the light values on the bottom and then worked to the darker values at the top. I also worked from left to right in a rainbow pattern: reds to pinks to oranges to yellows to greens to blues to purples. I didn’t want there to be clean lines of color sections so I made sure to stagger the colors and then throw in a surprise color from another section every now and again.
Step 4: To attach the post it, just put a thin line of glue at the top of the post it and stick. Glue sticks work well, but I felt more secure with a glue gun as I knew it would hold. We tried double sided stick tape too but it took a bit longer.
I had the best time behind me and boy am I glad they were there! I truly thought it wouldn’t take that long to do and I always think that I can do things on my own so I was so relieved when they saved the day. We started at about noon and worked until 6 or so. Originally I wanted to do the WHOLE stairwell, but we ended up only doing three walls because of time. We had one person on the paper cutter, a few people attaching tape to the post-its, and then the rest attaching them to the butcher paper.
Start with the little things, my friends.
Thank you Heidi for being so open to the idea and thank you to all the helpers! And after this project I have a whole new appreciation for this one
More post-it stories here and here and some inspiration post-it projects on my Pinterest